Tou.me is a calm, logistics-first family planner designed for separated, divorced, and blended families. Unlike legal or chat-heavy apps, Tou.me focuses purely on the practical: schedules, handovers, essentials, expenses, and wellbeing. It’s separation-aware but never adversarial, helping families avoid misunderstandings and reduce friction. With neutral language, structured flows, and easy share-outs to calendars or WhatsApp, Tou.me makes the everyday realities of raising children across two homes clearer, calmer, and fairer.
Inside Tou.me
Practical tools for two-home families — calm, structured, and neutral by design.
Key Features
Calendar
Set up schedules with templates for repeats and term-time changes.
Handover Playbooks
Clear checklists and timings for smooth, predictable handovers.
Two-Home Inventory
Track essentials across both homes — uniforms, meds, devices.
Shared Expenses (Tracking only)
Log shared costs and balances — no payments to argue over.
Child Wellbeing
Note mood, sleep, and needs — keep things supportive, not forensic.
Weekly Digest
A neutral summary you can share to keep everyone aligned.
Editable Checklists
Real-world admin lists you can reuse and adapt quickly.
Neutral Share-Outs
Generate summaries for WhatsApp, SMS, email, or calendars.
Privacy Guardrails
GDPR-first, encrypted, and designed to avoid conflict.
FAQ
Is Tou.me a legal or court app?
No. Tou.me avoids court framing, chat logs, and evidence trails. It’s a calm logistics organiser, not a legal tool.
Can I chat in Tou.me?
No. There’s no in-app messaging. Instead, Tou.me generates structured summaries you can share through WhatsApp, SMS, or email.
Do both parents need to use it?
It works best if everyone’s involved, but it’s still useful solo. You can export schedules, checklists, and digests to keep the other side informed without them needing the app.
How is my data protected?
All data is encrypted in transit and at rest, hosted in the UK/EU under GDPR rules. No ads, no trackers.
What if only I want to use it with a grandparent or carer?
That’s supported. You can invite carers or viewers with limited roles and only share what’s needed.
What about payments or reimbursements?
Tou.me only tracks shared expenses and balances. It doesn’t handle payments — this avoids complexity and conflict.
Who is Tou.me for?
Primarily separated/divorced parents raising kids across two homes, but also blended families, grandparents, step-parents, and carers who help coordinate.